If you emotionally vomit on someone and spill your whole life story during the first three dates, where’s the fun in that?
It’s like telling someone what’s in the present they’re about to unwrap. Focus on having fun, enjoy the mystery, and going from casual to serious will happen naturally.
Dating Tips and Q&A with Yours Truly I wrote the first version of this article in 2012, and since then I’ve gotten hundreds of emails and comments asking about what to do in certain situations.
Here are the most common questions and my answers to each.
Meeting Friends Meeting each other’s social group is a big step.
If you make it past the gauntlet of scrutiny from their friends, things are well on their way.
How long before insecurities, neediness, and jealousy creep in? If you’re struggling to find people willing to move beyond casual dating, there’s a good chance you’re giving too much.
If you’re struggling with this, here’s a short list to help you go from a casual date to a serious mate (so lame, I know).
1) Be Independent Some “experts” say you should act unavailable.
If you have a question about moving from casual dating to a serious relationship that I didn’t answer, leave a comment below the article and I’ll get back to you within a couple days.
Q: I’ve been dating this person for months, and when I ask if we’re a serious couple or not, the subject gets changed or I get ignored altogether. One, they’re interested but not good at communicating or are feeling pressured and don’t like it.
It’s true that being overly available can seem desperate or unattractive, but the last thing you want to do is play dating games.