If you're considering getting serious with someone significantly older or younger than yourself, these are important things to discuss.
How will you address potential challenges, such as being on different biological timetables, one of you ending up a caretaker, the timing of children, or dealing with gaps in maturity?
Before I began dating Kevin, a woman I worked with in children's ministry frequently asked me about him, seeing potential from the start. " "Ah," she said lightly, waving her hand, "My husband's four years older, but he acts younger.
After God prompted Travis to say the exact words Leah had been praying for, the answer seemed obvious.If he had still been a "college kid," I might have had a hard time feeling like we were equals.And while the same life stage can seem to erase an age difference, Willy Wooten, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who has been counseling for over 30 years, encourages couples to think ahead."Things may be good now, but think 10 years down the road," he says. " Wooten's own father was 17 years older than his mother.
"My dad always loved sports, but he was not physically able to engage with me in sports," he says. If you hit it off because you both love rock climbing, consider if that's something that will be part of your relationship for years to come." 3. Another concern Leah had was whether she could submit to Travis as a spiritual leader.
Even some 30-something guys I knew didn't seem ready.